Tuesday, July 3, 2012
How to navigate the Hater's Ball in 2012
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that."—Mark Twain
Recently I have spoken with many of you who have started to try to make fitness a way of life. Unfortunately, it seems a lot of you have been met with not only a lack of support but actually discouragement from your friends and peers. I talked with a young lady a few days ago who told me that everyone in her office is making fun of her. Luckily, this particular person decided to use this as motivation to do even more to achieve her fitness goals!
What you have to understand is that achievement of any kind makes those who are complacent in life uncomfortable. You have to remember this to avoid becoming one of life's daily drones that just go through the motions of living instead of pushing the envelope to see what life has to offer. This is true not only in fitness but in business, faith, and any other thing worth doing. That is another reason I love training, the lessons are transcendent!
Another thing to think about is that majority of the time, if you are doing something positive and improving, you will always have some haters! I will paraphrase comedian Kat Williams: Having haters is a good thing. The more haters you have the better you are doing! For some reason, it is almost excluded from the genetic make up of most people to appreciate the accomplishments of those we feel are on our "level". Maybe we feel left behind? Maybe it points out some insecurity in ourselves? Who knows? All I know is that it seems to be true. That "gene" if you will is one thing that good trainers, teachers, and coaches have that I truly admore. When your life's passion is help others achieve and exceed you are truly an anomaly and an amazing person!
So what do you do to get past this? Well, I won't say that you should totally agree with Mr.Twain and say you should avoid them as, unfortunately, they are often times friends, family, and co-workers. What I will recommend is that you seek out those who are supportive in your goals. Spend time with them, talk with them about your goals and be supportive of them in return! Secondly, use your haters as fuel. Just like the lady in the first paragraph, every time you get a new neigh-sayer make it even more of a reason to DO YOU. You are the only person who can stop you. It doesn't matter what anyone else says. Hell, it doesn't matter what they think either, because, deep down in side, they really wish they had the drive to do them as much as you...